“My ex girlfriend used to play pool with me every weekend.”
Trigger:That reminds me of…
Purpose: Threading consists of making statements that relate to sub-topics of another person’s statements. It is considered a very valuable skill by many dating experts since it prevents the conversation from staling, it helps move the conversation forward and it helps with the problem of “not knowing what to say”. In addition, frequently switching topics creates the impression that we know someone well in a short amount of time — it is the equivalent of a snapshot.
Task: First, notice that the main subject is not in bold and that the subtopics are in bold. Making a statement that relates to one of the sub-topics ensures proper threading and that the entire conversation is not about one topic only. For each new statement that appears, read the statement out loud. Then, your task is to make statements about one of the sub-topics in bold as if you were having a real conversation. When a new sentence appears, repeat the task. You have about 20-30 seconds for each statement. Try to make statements for that duration because it trains you to be able to talk about a wide range of topics.
You might notice the video. Click on Play if you find value in practicing while it plays. The point of that video is to keep you focused on the task even though the slideshow is distracting. When you talk to women, you may sometimes get distracted by their looks. Hopefully, practicing with that video trains you to remain focused on the conversation despite their attractiveness.
Trick: One trick with this exercise is to start your statements with “That reminds me of…” or think it in your head and then follow with your statements. This trick can serve as a trigger for relating and remembering your personal experience on one of the sub-topics.